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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] And buying stuff to leave in your house? Yeah, this is the step mom version of leaving something behind at your boyfriend's house so you have an excuse to come back.[/quote]

Agreed ! Just the idea of someone leaving stuff in my house, for their future visits, would not be acceptable to me. The work to manage a house with the chaos that comes with children is staggering. We have to regularly donate items to maintain some semblance of order and sanity, as we have very little storage. What happens if one of her precious glasses gets broken?

Until you have children, you really have no idea how wild the days and nights are... As other posters have mentioned, and you know, she has no clue, and you do have to set boundaries.

I have a SM who would give me gifts related to her visits. One Christmas, I got a nice air mattress. I was thrilled, bc she normally got me $1 -$5 from IKEA that were random and obviously just something inexpensive she could give me so that she didn't actually have to think about an thoughtful gift. Then there were special coffee mugs. Again, I was touched. Then robes. This confused me, as I was dating, but it wasn't serious, and I didn't understand the gift. Twice they came down to visit, and since I had a studio, I actually stayed with a friend.

As I called from work, she said "Oh well your father are I really enjoying our visit, with the robes, the coffee mugs. But you know we got you the airmattress so we could all stay together, and we are very hurt that you stayed elsewhere. You have a beautiful apartment! We are looking forward to our visits!

I realized in fact that all of her gifts were her attempt to outfit their visits. I was single and 28, but working long hours and could not stomach the idea of any of it. I explained that I wouldn't be able to get ready for work stepping over them and their luggage in my tiny apartment, and left it there. I just stopped inviting them. I don't think it was the best choice, but at the same time, I couldn't get involved in the back and forth regarding other options / directions.

All of this is to say, you've got to draw the line where you can comfortably manage it.

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