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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you have a LOT of stuff to deal with here.  I'm sorry you're saddled with all of this.  Just a couple of thoughts:

- try to remember that your mother was dealing with a child, a husband in jail, and all the stuff related to that, before she was even the age you are now.  It sounds to me like she did the best she could.  That doesn't mean it was perfect, or that she wouldn't do things differently if given the chance, or that you maybe deserved better, but it was the best she could do at the time.  She was 21/22 when her world blew apart and she had a baby girl.  Try to put yourself in her shoes.

It's entirely understandable that you want to know your biological dad and you absolutely deserve to know the full truth (to the extent possible).  Be prepared for the truth being messy, full of mistakes and good intentions and bad actions on all sides.  You will not get the happy ending you deserved as a child.  You may get some resolution, and hopefully you can find some peace.  But those things will come from how you decide to proceed, what decisions you make, and how you decide to feel about things.

You're in charge of your life now.  That's the great news, and also the responsibility.

I wish you all the best.  I think talking with your therapist is an excellent idea.  It can be hugely helpful to talk through emotional things with an impartial third party, and you have a ton of very emotional stuff to deal with.

Other good news is that your parents are all alive, wanting to be in touch with you, and giving you the chance to build new relationships.

Take your time, try not to make anyone the villain, and trust your own inner radar.

Good luck.[/quote]

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