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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are getting distracted by the spanking.  The deeper issue is figuring out if your kid stole, lied and conned his grandparents bc of poor judgement or if he lacks empathy and remorse. 
Making him work off his theft and taking away freedoms is def a good strategy. In the coming months and years you can figure out if he regrets consequences of future bad behavior bc he is developing empathy or because he gets caught.
If he has impulse and/or anti-social issues then the only recourse you will have is making the consequences harsh enough to make him decide it's not worth the risk.
Taking away the iPad, TV, Internet, phone, making him work off the value of the theft with unpleasant jobs is perfectly reasonable and perhaps having him do chores for grandparents too bc misleading them made them victims too.  
Nip this in the bud.  If he can internalize the impact stealing and conning others has, it may be the last lesson he needs to learn in this regard.

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Yes, PP.  Finally, someone getting to the real issue.  Why did he take the money in the first place?  What did he need the money for?  And, what was a 10 year old intending to do with $75?  I have 11 year old twins.  My DD earns money periodically from chores (I.e., $5 here and there).  She has managed to squirreled away over $400 and put most of it in her bank account.  She also collects coins in a big jar, which can add up to some serious cash.  If your DS wants money, he can earn it but frankly at that age, we buy most of the things they need except junk from the ice cream truck or CVS.  I am concerned about the fact that he took the money and for what reason.  And, would he go to a friend's house and take money or something of value that is left out in the open.  You need to get to the bottom of this before it escalates outside of your house.[/quote]

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