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[quote=Anonymous]So, I think that OP should get her husband to set up the basement and he should be competent to do that.  BUT - I will say that, with my husband, he sometimes seems clueless about what I think are basic things.  This does not mean he gets out of doing things, but it does mean that if he insists something is ambiguous, we sit down and discuss what needs to be done and then HE does it.  Example:  my husband is terrible at cleaning, so when I ask him to help clean up the house in preparation for his relatives coming to visit, he will say okay but then fail to wipe down counters, vacuum, put away unfolded laundry.  He really does not see that as "cleaning" (which to me seems totally bizarre), but I have come to realize he really has a different perception of cleaning and if it's not old food/dirty dishes, it doesn't bug him.  So, last time he was supposed to clean, I sat down with him and we went through the stuff he had to do, including wiping down counters.  Sigh.  It's odd, but not malicious and he is totally willing to do the work and definitely does 50% of the household work, he just has a different idea of how to do things than I do.  And I listen to him too because I am also not perfect and can screw up what he thinks might be totally unambiguous requests.

Perhaps if OP does not have some sort of crazy-high standards (it's unclear why husband isn't equipped to deal with mattresses and bedding), she simply explain what to do and get him to do it.[/quote]

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