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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's clear that what is lost is the inter-generational caring and commitment that used to mark human family relationships. There are many people, lots on this board, with toxic parents and relationships characterized by abuse. You don't describe that type of problem. You describe wanting to be a "kid" and have fun time away from your parents while your parents, who are admittedly elderly and may or may not have another year of life left in them, want to impose on your good time.

What is there to be grateful for? How about being grateful for having living parents who are still mentally stable and physically able at 75 years old and having parents that you love and who love you and who love their grandchildren. These are not things to be taken for granted or blown off. [/quote]

Oh, please. Spare me. Adult children don't have to spend all their free time with their elderly parents. If you read the previous post, you would see that the OP spends time with her father. She just doesn't want to vacation with him. I don't see a problem here. A vacation is supposed to be relaxing. She didn't make plans with him and he is rude for wanting to invite himself and his wife and MIL. That's just rude!

When I go on vacation, it's me, DH and the kids. No other family allowed. My parents see the kids at least once a week. My MIL is now deceased, but she would see the kids when she wasn't busy traveling. My FIL visits for months at a time (he has a second home) and sees the kids several times a year (whenever he asks to see them, I allow it).

I don't live my life for the older generation. They are included in our lives, but they don't dictate how I live my life.

As to the poster I quoted, I wonder how much time you devote to your elderly parents.

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