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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have friends who are quite clearly taking advantage of their parents and in laws. It's upsetting. [/quote]

That's an interesting statement.

If the parents or in-laws do not mind, why are you upset?  Maybe they are very happy that they are getting to spend time with their grandkids or maybe they are happy to be helping their kids? Or, are you upset that you do not have a similar setup?[/quote]
In one instance, the grandmother is living frugally in retirement while her son (who can now bank his wife's entire salary thanks to her help) is spending money on huge needless purchases. In the other case, it just seems very taxing and stressful for the grandmother. It's hard to watch. [/quote]

[b]I have a friend like this. She is totally taking advantage of her mom, but the mom allows it. The mom was caring for her dying, invalid MIL (bc her DH, my friend's dad) basically made her and then once my friend had a baby, she took care of the baby, because that was a better situation for her than wiping the mean MIL's behind.

My friend is a brat and abuses the mom. For example, she will meet up for happy hours often after work, instead of going home to relieve her mom of the kids and I will be there as she calls the mom and LIES to say, I'm stuck at work, in traffic, on a conference call, etc. She will often stay out until 7:30, when her work day pretty regularly ends at 5pm. I think it is pretty shitty. She couldn't do that with a paid caregiver. Because she has no childcare expenses, she also spends lavishly clothes, travel, home remodeling, etc. this woman is also one of those moms who is always "soooo tired" and always "needs me time" or a girls weekend or girls night because she is just so overwhelmed with work and being a mom. It is laughable because her mom is raising her kids while she and her DH party. [/quote[/b]]

And, why is she your friend?[/quote]

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