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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him.[/quote]

OP - we already have separate checkbooks.  He doesn't understand the concept of a bank balance not including deductions for checks that did not clear.[/quote]

[b]My husband is like that too.   We have been married 15 years and luckily I discovered that VERY early in our marriage.   What it has basically come down to is I handle ALL the money.   It's sad really, whenever he wants to buy something, he has to ask me first.[/b]If I were in your shoes, OP I would probably find out exactly how much extra first class was vs. coach vs. driving to the vacation destination (if possible, you don't say where it is so maybe it is overseas or something).    Then I would deduct the difference from his spending money.   For example, maybe the difference was $500, and he likes to golf.   Well, the next time the opportunity for some special golf outing with his buddies comes up, he'll just have to sit it out.   And the next one.   And however many it takes until he has forfeited at least $500 of fun.[/quote]

Not the OP, but curious to know how you reached this point.  How did you get your DH on board with it?[/quote]

Well, for one thing, he is in the military, and frequently has to deploy for months or even up to a year at a time. When we were first married, most bills weren't paid online like I can do now, and paying the bills from a foreign, sometimes remote location was difficult.  Therefore, it was just easier for me to handle all the bill paying.   And at certain times of our marriage we didn't have a lot of money to spare for fun things--so before we bought fun stuff, we'd have to make sure there was money to pay the electric bill, to put gas in the car, etc.   Since I was the one paying the bills, he'd ask me "Do we have enough money this month for me to buy X?"   And there were times I'd have to tell him no...and then he'd get mad at me and complain that I was "spending all his money" (yeah, on the electric bill and mortgage!   How frivolous of me!).
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