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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] [b]I think we just have to accept that our priorities lie elsewhere. It's your (and my) pride that is making you feel like ashamed. Reprogram your inner voice. 
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OP here. Thanks for all of the helpful comments. This one is spot on and very thought provoking. Thank you!
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This one is so spot on.  OP, I'm right there with you.  You sound like you're doing great work, and that it's more a perspective shift than anything.  I have a PhD, am wrapping up a postdoc, and despite having several good offers am just not interested in ramping up my career right now.  My kids are 2.5y and 5mo, and we'd like to have a third sooner rather than later.  Part of me has been feeling like a total failure for not going after a tenure-track position (despite the fact that I have NO interest in the grant-funded craziness that is academic science); it's a hard habit to break.  I recently had a manuscript accepted for publication and bragged about it on FB (hey, why not?) and folks were so congratulatory and sweet.  And I thought, you know, this *is* an accomplishment, even if it's not going to Nature or Science.

Live the life that's right for you.  The folks I know who are above average in their careers spend much less time with their kids than I'd want, or don't see their friends as often as I'd like, or don't work out as much as I'd want, etc.  Those lives are right for them, and this life is right for me.  There are so many ways to live a good life, you know?

Good luck--you're not alone, as this thread can attest to![/quote]

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