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[quote=Anonymous]douchy PP here-

Funny how some women have jumped to the conclusion that men want "bjs on command".  That's not it.  At all.  Not even close.  If it was, men would command a bj every day.  However, it seems that the women who have outrage about men wanting a bj from their wife are also okay with the other extreme- the wife refusing any intimacy because they aren't 100% in the mood at the beginning.

It seems that women expect men to understand that men and women are different biologically and emotionally.  But women don't seem to be okay with that concept.  The answer pushed by many here is that the woman's level of desire is the deciding factor, as though sex with their husband is a chore for them and most often, the last one they feel compelled to do.  I'm not sure why it is a bad thing for a husband to want to be intimate with his wife.

As others have said, it isn't just about the physical release.  That's a big part of it, sure.  But for many men, myself included, it is about emotional and physical connection with my wife as well.  And for women to say "just use your hand" is offensive and obtuse.  Living in a sexless marriage is something too many women (and some men) seem to be okay with.  Was my comment doucy?  Sure.  But it is on-par with women who ignore a core need of their husbands and think jacking off is an adequate replacement.

The issues in my marriage go beyond BC.  I had a vasectomy and my wife is on no BC.  We've talked about my needs and her needs.  I feel like I have tried- many times over many months- to do what she has asked to rekindle her desire.  But I feel that my wife has not held up her end.  And when I try to initiate physical contact I am rejected most of the time.  This says nothing about all the times I would love to be intimate and don't initiate anything because she's dropped pre-emptive hints about fatigue, headaches, and whatever else life has thrown that pushes intimacy to the bottom of her "chore list".  Therefore- I'm angry and resentful about this topic.  It really sucks to be rejected by my wife for months at a time.

But my question still remains- if a wife thinks that sex once a &lt;insert timeframe here&gt; is sufficient and the husband would like to have sex [i]with his wife[/i] more often, is it too much to ask for her to consider [i]his[/i] emotional and physical needs by having sex, even just oral, even though she may not be "in the mood"?  I'm willing to bet that most women don't even consider giving a bj out of the blue just because he would love it.

If your needs trump his and you think he should just rub one out, I think you are a much bigger douche than the man who longs for intimacy with his wife.[/quote]

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