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[quote=Anonymous]I wasn't on all weekend, but was the one that asked how it was going.  Thanks for the update.  Heck, I'm curious and want you to go out on some dates!  If solely to get you back out there and to realize, there are plenty of guys to date.

When I initially created online profiles, I was in the "new members" category.  At the very least, I got contacted by the guys sitting around waiting for the newbies.  Not being sarcastic, but check your profile settings to make sure they can see you -- and also, make sure you are emailing active members.  Agree you need to put up more pictures -- dressed up, casual, at least one full-length).

I had more luck on OKC.  Some of the questions are ridiculous, many are not.  The more you answer, the closer you get to a good match (using their methods).  Plenty of people looking for hook-ups on both sites, but I found it obvious and they can be weeded out.

I'm the same age as you, also two kids.  I was always up front about my situation.  I do not have a lot of kid-free time, or free time.  So I don't want to bother if they are not interested in me for me.  I had guys ask if I was serious about not having more children (don't recall what site asked that question).

I've had the most success with single fathers who are involved in their kids' lives.  Because my kids are with me a lot, I don't think I would deal well with a guy who is the equivalent of my ex (tons of free time, sees his kids once a week type thing).  I have gone out with (but not seriously dated) up to 10 years younger.  I agree completely, that a 40 year old guy who does not have children, is going to be looking for a younger woman.  Just generalizing.  I think I went out with just a few men my age.  My current BF was out of my search criteria and is about 7 years older (though I put in up to 49 at the time).  40 is a cut off for a lot of men -- they put up to 39.  But I see zero value in lying about your age.

Keep trying!  Cast a wide net and start giving some of the guys that show interest a chance.  Unless they are creepy, it can't hurt.[/quote]

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