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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a similar position.  How old are your kids?  My youngest is now 8 and life is good.

To answer your question, my workaholic, high earning DH does very little around the house.  He is good about plugging into family activities and sports driving on the weekends.  When I have a bad evening (I need to be two places at once), he will arrange to work from home so he can get everyone where they need to be in the after school/evening hours.  He cleans our two cars and does some yard work on the weekends and occasionally folds laundry and does dishes (but only if I prompt on the last two).

I definitely remember being resentful when my kids were younger.  Now, with them both in school, I just try to make sure I can rejuvenate during the week because the weekends are actually more work for me:))  I have really had to shift my thinking to realize that my "me time" is while the kids are in school and the weekends I spend supporting the rest of the team.  A lot of this is about expectations.   If you are able to get enough "you time" when your DH is not home, you don't resent unloading the dishwasher while he reads the newspaper on the weekend.

I am sure I am going to get flamed for being a "traditional wife"  but I will say this.  I've been married almost 20 years.  My DH is not going to change and suddenly work less and do more dishes.  He and I have to work together to make sure we both live a satisfying life.  For me, that doesn't mean fighting with him to become a great multi-tasker when he just doesn't seem to have it in him.  I love him and our family works well.  There are many types of partnerships.  You just have to find the one that works for u.[/quote]

I read this the other day and I just kept thinking about it, so I came back to revisit it.  Thank you so much for posting this - truly.  I've been a SAHM for almost 2 years now, after quitting a very stressful, demanding 80 + hour a week job to be home with the kids while DH continues on with his own very demanding career.  Our kids are still young, but now that they are in either elementary or preschool 5 days a week, I know that the three hours per weekday day that I have without any of them really ARE my "me" time - even at the grocery store.  The weekends are more stressful, definitely, because we never know if DH will be able to join us in any of the family activities.  And I have found myself feeling resentful for the unloading the dishwasher/reading the newspaper dichotomy.  LOL.  I know how stressed he is.  I lived his life and mine is much easier now (or at least I can generally get a full night's sleep).  But I still need some time for me.  Thank you for framing this in a way that I appreciate and understand.   [/quote]

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