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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a parent of two kids born at 28 weeks who spent 2 months in the nicu and made everyone in the extended family get multiple vaccinations (and provide documentation), you are crazy. Just have people wash up when they get to your house.

Screen time, schedule, diet, religion, etc - all things you can and should control with your progeny. Kisses? Come on. How do you even have the time to count kisses? Take a nap, have an adult conversation, read a book, take a walk. Use the MIL to give you a break. If you continue down this road you will suffer a break of a whole different kind.[/quote]

Who are you to decide what bother OP? She may feel as strongly about germs as you do about screen time or anything else on your list of acceptable restrictions above. [/quote]

Oh god, the feelings person!  Shows up in every thread where someone is complaining about something ridiculous and tells everyone we have no right to judge the OP's feelings.

Some people's feelings are ridiculous. They should be told that so they don't go around alienating people and acting crazy. [/quote]

I'm pretty sure this is the first time I've posted about validating "feelings." You're being a bit dramatic, PP. Anyway, I think it's silly for one person to list the things they deem acceptable for OP to control while scoffing at something that doesn't make on her personal list. Many people would deem some items on PPs list as being "crazy, controlling and unhinged" but it's her child and I won't call her insane for deciding what is important to her family, even if it's a non-issue in my world -- making those decisions for your own family is called being a parent. As far as OPs concerns, there are actual real health risks with people kissing babies faces and for some, they feel family is reason enough to take that risk, but for others, nothing is worth that risk. And if, as other PPs have mentioned, not being able to kiss the newborn hundreds of times is going to "ruin" MILs relationship with her grandchild down the road, then MIL needs to own that. Get a grip, PPs, and try to understand that people are complex individuals who oftentimes process the world differently.

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Not the PP who responded to your post but the problem with your reasoning is that it becomes inappropriate to question just about most people's behavior and interactions because each individual has their own values and preferences.

When the OP reacts in a bizarre manner - at least bizarre by the standards of most people as evidenced by the reaction of those responding to her - there is nothing wrong in pointing it out to her. She can still do whatever the hell she wants and she more than likely will do so.

I can understand if MIL or anyone else had a cold or some sort of infection she might spread kissing the baby but in the real world everyone - including babies - are exposed to all sorts of germs and bacteria. Trying to insulate one's baby from anything and everything that may be potentially harmful including the MIL actions with the baby is outright weird. Does she feel the same way about kissing her own baby or her husband kissing the baby? If not, why not? It is potentially just as harmful unless the reasoning is that as parents they have the right to do so and if it results in the baby getting infected then that is their prerogative.

OP's behavior and reaction to her MIL is bizarre ........ and if someone wants to describe it as borderline crazy, I'd likely agree. And I also agree with the PP who said that her reaction to this is probably not an isolated incident.[/quote]

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