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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I had a micro-preemie, and no, I do not think you are being unreasonable. Ask your MIL to shower before she comes over and to keep a change of clothes at your house. She must wash her hands, use hand sanitizer and wear a mask when holding the baby. Tell her it's doctor's orders, and leave it at that.

My DC was born at 26 weeks, and by definition had lung damage. No way would I let a smoker anywhere near my baby. I wouldn't even let any relatives come see or hold the baby until DC was a full year old. Yes, I lost a lot of friends that year, but DC is a healthy child now, and I don't regret it for a moment. A neighbor had a preemie (born at 34 weeks) who was hospitalized twice during his first year and has asthma. She took him everywhere his first year, let anyone hold him. I refused to take that risk.

You're the mom, you make the rules. I'm sorry if your MIL will suffer as a result, but your baby's health is your first priority. Your MIL is a grown up, and she'll get over it. But if your baby gets sick, well, you will have a tough time on your hands. Cigarette smoke, even 3rd hand, does not mix with a preemie's fragile lungs. [/quote]

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