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[quote=Anonymous]OP,

I did not read the whole thread so maybe someone mentioned this already:

There is a slight chance your daughter could have ADD. Does she seem inattentive, does she daydream, spend a lot of time "working" but actually nothing really gets done? Is she disorganized, does she lose things easily? Can she multitask routinely or is it a big effort?

This may be why your lecturing and yelling may have the positive effect that you see - I was the same, and now my son is the same. ADD brains have so much going on inside that it is hard to keep focused on academic work towards a long-term goal (good grades). So the brain needs a sharp stimulant sometimes to keep that focus, and there is nothing so neuron-stimulating as the acerbic expression of a parent's disappointment, because it acts in a physical way (raising your voice in a disagreeable manner) and also in psychological way (a loved one is disappointed).

Since we are not yet at the point of using medication, yelling so far has proved the most productive way to foster ability in my child. I can also clap loudly, or send him to run around the block very fast. Sad, isn't it? I feel guilt about it every time I do it. If I don't, my otherwise intelligent 8 year old is capable of asserting that there are 6 seconds in a minute. When his brain focuses, of course he realizes that there are 60 seconds in a minute!

Anyway, good luck.[/quote]

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