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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is much better looking than I am.  He married me, I think, because he very much wanted a wife that shared his interests.  He didn't want a wife that would spend all her time dressing up, buying clothes, and doing girly things.  He really wanted a partner and not just a maid/toy.  And I have to admit, since he is a total nerd (although a very good looking nerd) that there are not many women who share his interests.[/quote]

This is pretty much me, to a T - I'm a good looking but pretty nerdy guy.  I do OK on looks (initial pickup), but have lost more than one woman by being a little too "smart" (mostly just interested in super-nerdy things - I'm not a MENSA jerk) and kind of bored by a number of typical things (like I am so out of touch with pop culture it's beyond pathetic - I'm a parody of public broadcasting).  I've dated "hot" women and also not-traditionally-beautiful women.  Ultimately, the ability to connect with the other person was more important - even in the bedroom! - than anything else.  And honestly, some of the prettier women were bitches who sucked in bed on top of it - because they could get away with it - they'd get pursued just for being hot.

My wife likes doing the same kind of activities (outdoorsy, foodie, etc,)  I do, understands my humor, can carry on a conversation and finds the same topics intellectually stimulating.  In other words: we get along great.  She does make an effort to look good (haircut, makeup, etc.) and she's cute, but she's a little chunky (this I would never ever say to her) and a bit of a klutz.  I think people assume VGL men with less-hot women are super-insecure.  Whatever.  She rocks my world because we connect well, and it makes everything we do better, including sex.  My wife has a VGL, traditionally-attractive sister - she rings my bells for sure - so I'd approach her (assuming she weren't my SIL and also married herself) but I wouldn't be interested past that first date because she's kind of boring (really nice person, just...boring).

[quote=Anonymous]I suspect your husband is the same and knows that he was very lucky to find you.[/quote]

Exactly.  This is exactly how I feel.  I'm always excited to see my wife and she always looks good to me.

Seriously: there is just so much more to it than just looks.  Judging based on looks is fine for one-night-stands maybe, but anything more than that...no way. [/quote]

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