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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

It really sounds as if your daughter is one of those rare gifted children. That word is bandied about so carelessly these days, but gifted children are no more numerous now than before.

They can have a difficult childhood, honestly. My gifted cousin was a social outcast all through her schooling until she quickly got 2 PhDs (in her early 20s) and finally found an eclectic group of friends who accepted her for who she was. She treks all around the world with some of them!

Also, I think my cousin took a longer time than average to feel comfortable around other people and really make friends just because most of the normal people she met seemed SO SLOW. This is how the world appeared to her - full of the most slow-witted disconnected people imaginable! She had to learn to be patient, tolerant and understanding to an incredible degree.

So realize that all this will take time. 
My son is gifted and learning disabled - another kettle of fish! At 6, he accepted that he was different. At 7, he asked me: "what is a friend?" I was a little heartbroken, but we constantly work on assuring him that we value him and that one day he will find soulmates that value him too.

Good luck. You can try the Mensa thing, and see if you can connect to other young members.

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Thanks.  It's hard to talk about this with anyone because most people assume  you are bragging.  The funny thing  is that we are more concerned with her and have more issues with her than with our other DC.  Our 2nd DC in my opinion is smart, but just not the same as our DD.  She's just different and we've been told that by many people from a very early age.  Our ped, friends that are child psychs, relatives and friends that teach gifted, etc.  We didn’t really get it right away since she was our first, but then with our second we actually were concerned he was delayed.  The ped just kind of laughed and said no you first is just not a good measurement.  So we quickly learned that we can't compare the two in terms of expectations.

Stories like your cousin are also comforting because I know at some point she'll find her niche.  I'm just worried about guiding her through these years and hoping she understands that she has a gift that should be used and not hidden away just to fit in.   She does need to work harder than most her age at social skills but I think she's catching on and we'll continue to support her in this area as well. 
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