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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have four kids and a husband, that is a critical mass. Your loneliness is not about numbers. What is it you think an extended family will provide that you don't have? [/quote]

I agress that the loneliness is something different going on. However as someone with a huge local family, there is quote a lot my extended family gives me. The way we support each other is tremendous. No child has ever been I  daycare, no bill unpaid, no illness gone without care, no one grows old alone and in a nursing home, no divorce unsupported, and we pull our resources to help each other. We have a CPA, doctors, mechanic, electrician, and a financial planner. All of the cousins are growing up with a huge advantage in life and a head start

My brother lost hos job amd had a period of long unemployment. We all pool together and paid his mortgage.  He would have lost his home otherwise.  I know he would do the same for the rest of us.

Dont underestimate the power of a loving and supportive extended family.[/quote]

This is OP.  Your last line is a really good point.  I think you hit the nail on the head in terms of what I am missing.  We have had some significant (nuclear) family crises for which my own (birth) family was not present nor helpful.  Friends stepped up thank God.   So this issue extends way beyond the holidays.  
[b]Hopefully my own children will be there for each other as my husband and I age.[/b][/quote]

OP, please make sure you are realistic about the role that your children may or not have in your and each other's lives as they grow up. I have two siblings and while we'd of course be there for each other if something serious happened to one of us or our parents, we don't have that much in common, have our own lives and don't see each other that often.

I hope you didn't have kids solely to make up for your lack of extended family and expect them to provide you with lots of grandkids. It's stressful to have your parents pressure you to stay close to them, get married, have kids, etc. to fill some void in their own lives. I know because my parents did that to me. Just be mindful of that. [/quote]

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