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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Look, OP. You need to talk to your husband honestly. Right now, you are mad at him for concealing something from you, while you are concealing from him that you know about it. Your "trying to give him an out" is manipulative and also dishonest. Why can't you just say, look, I saw the emails and I'm upset that you volunteered not to go and are now saying that you'll have to lie about where you were? Why is that such a hard thing for you? Be an adult. Deal with this like adults. [/quote]

I was trying not to be controlling and give him a reason to resent me.  I was trying to let him know that even though I still don't like it I understand if he feels pressured into it but I would just rather know.  Because even though it bothers me I know it's not the end of the world if he goes.  However, that isn't the case so I am going to have to just talk to him and tell him what I know.  That was my first instinct but I was trying to let it go that it bothers me so much if he goes.  [/quote]

You were trying to be something other than honest about how you feel about the situation. Your feelings are totally justified. I would be upset as well. That said, you should have talked to him about it when you first found out he was lying, rather than trying to give him an opportunity to tell the truth.[/quote]

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