Reply to To: my sister in law

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "To: my sister in law"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I kind of think the opposite. I think those who are either of the entitled princess variety, or those who suspiciously eye others as “martyrs,” are envious of the ability of others to do the things they do. I agree that calling others “martyrs” is often an excuse for not only their own bad behavior, but to justify not trying. And by calling others “martyrs,” they actually have envy towards those that are capable of wanting to put forth greater effort to helping others, doing better, or whatever. Seeing others as martyrs obviously brings out some degree of insecurity. Otherwise, why do you care?

From OP’s post, I get the feeling that they’re ok with not getting recognition. But it’s something else entirely to call someone a bitch, after investing a lot of effort. There’s a difference between silence, and negativity. I’m also a do-er type of person. I don’t care about recognition, but it would definitely be extremely hurtful if someone complained about me not doing enough, or called me a bitch for not doing more. That really would point to a tremendous sense of entitlement. It seems like the calling of being a bitch (however appropriate or not it was for the brother to relay that message) would teeter a lot of people from neutrality over silence, into the “are you fucking kidding me?” category.

I’m always wary when people call others “martyrs.” It always seems like a distraction from their own inactivity. Or often, reflective of their own envy about others who step up to do more. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics