Anonymous wrote:I haven’t “confronted” her. I’m not sure what there is to confront - when you do a tremendous amount for someone and make all the effort, at some point they have to return the effort at least 5%. This isn’t a conversation you have a with an adult woman, it’s something you learn in kindergarten. If someone doesn’t realize that now, is there any point in discussing it with them? Would it really be productive? The rest of SIL’s family is awesome though, so I don’t know what went wrong. The rest of us lucked out in the IL department - DH is an only child, but his parents are basically happy hippies. My other brother’s wife is one of the kindest people I've met. Our sister died several years ago, but we still stay in touch with her partner at the time. She’s somewhat flakey sometimes, but has a heart of gold.
Anonymous wrote:I kind of think the opposite. I think those who are either of the entitled princess variety, or those who suspiciously eye others as “martyrs,” are envious of the ability of others to do the things they do. I agree that calling others “martyrs” is often an excuse for not only their own bad behavior, but to justify not trying. And by calling others “martyrs,” they actually have envy towards those that are capable of wanting to put forth greater effort to helping others, doing better, or whatever. Seeing others as martyrs obviously brings out some degree of insecurity. Otherwise, why do you care?
From OP’s post, I get the feeling that they’re ok with not getting recognition. But it’s something else entirely to call someone a bitch, after investing a lot of effort. There’s a difference between silence, and negativity. I’m also a do-er type of person. I don’t care about recognition, but it would definitely be extremely hurtful if someone complained about me not doing enough, or called me a bitch for not doing more. That really would point to a tremendous sense of entitlement. It seems like the calling of being a bitch (however appropriate or not it was for the brother to relay that message) would teeter a lot of people from neutrality over silence, into the “are you fucking kidding me?” category.
I’m always wary when people call others “martyrs.” It always seems like a distraction from their own inactivity. Or often, reflective of their own envy about others who step up to do more.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh, and one more thing? Now your husband/my brother needs your PERMISSION to bring my nephew over and let him spend some time with his aunt? Just because I refused to do things for you anymore? You're fucking insane. You're a cunt.
I'm not your SIL, but ANYONE who would use the c" word or this or any other forum wouldn't be let near any of my kids any time. GO F yourself, misogynistic pig. SIL is right about you just because you're such an incredible sexist.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh, and one more thing? Now your husband/my brother needs your PERMISSION to bring my nephew over and let him spend some time with his aunt? Just because I refused to do things for you anymore? You're fucking insane. You're a cunt.
I[b]'m not your SIL, but ANYONE who would use the c" word or this or any other forum wouldn't be let near any of my kids any time. GO F yourself, misogynistic pig. SIL is right about you just because you're such an incredible sexist.[/b]
Anonymous wrote:Oh, and one more thing? Now your husband/my brother needs your PERMISSION to bring my nephew over and let him spend some time with his aunt? Just because I refused to do things for you anymore? You're fucking insane. You're a cunt.
Anonymous wrote:Are you the same OP as the one with the SIL with the dog with infected teeth?
You are both trying to see a nephew and sounds similar.
Anonymous wrote:Are you the same OP as the one with the SIL with the dog with infected teeth?
You are both trying to see a nephew and sounds similar.