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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP we don't know you so we have to guess and project based on the women we don't know. Being offended and defensive by that makes you sound really uptight and not fun to be around. FYI.[/quote]

I actually took that really well, I think, considering I was called unattractive and told that there was something wrong with me. I even focused on the positive and said that I got a lot of supportive posts before I heard the negative, unsupportive ones (for which words like "douchebag" are appropriate, IMO). Not sure if you consider "take offensive remarks/assumptions lying down or as the gospel truth" to be the recommended behavior here.

[quote]Dear OP, 
 I am a 40 year old Indian woman, now married and with a child. I was raised JUST LIKE YOU and my 20s sound like yours!! Conservative, yet not religious, highly educated, tons of friends, pretty, outgoing, etc....I can make a few recommendations.

1. Self confidence is key. Fake it until you really have it. Men love confidence (not arrogance!) 
 2. Lose excess weight, if you have any. On the other hand, gain a few pounds if you are too skinny. Go to the gym and get fit!! Men don't like too fat or too thin. I know this is superficial, but I am trying to give you very practical advice. 
 3. Start doing activities that you enjoy where you might meet men (volunteer for Habitat for Humanity, join a club etc) 
 4. Ask your friends to set you up on dates. Ask your most trusted friends to tell you honestly how you can improve your chances of meeting someone (i.e., what you need to change about yourself) and take their criticisms constructively. 
 5. SMILE!!! Practice this in the grocery store, at work, etc. This makes you approachable. BE FRIENDLY and observe women who seem to have tons of men around them. Do what they do -- smile, laugh easily, touch an elbow, be kind to everyone, and do not judge others. 
 7. BE CONFIDENT! You are so young. I wish I had not worried as much as I did when I was your age. All I wanted was a boyfriend. Now I realize 26 was the prime of my life and I should not have worried about anything....and should have focused on enjoying my youth!! Try to have fun!! I hope you find happiness :) [/quote]

Awww, thank you so much! This was really helpful and heartening.  :)[/quote]

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