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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and his brother are very close, so we live very close to BIL and his wife.  For the most part it's ok, we have built in playmates down the street.

However, SIL drives me mad with her constant obsession with what my children are doing compared to hers.  We both have three, and I'm 20 weeks with #4.   My DD is 7 and my two DS are 5 and almost 2.  Her three boys are 3, 5, and 8...so we pretty much have alway had pregnancies together or with our youngest within a year of each other.  It started with our oldest and got worse.  My babies have been fairly small, DD was 6 pounds 3 ounces at birth, full term and perfectly healthy but small.  The boys were both a little over 7 pounds which I find normal.  She has gigantic babies.  The last boy was 11 pounds, he to this day is in the 100th percentile for everything.  SIL loves to tell me how her children are bigger because of their diet, their physical activity.  I coddle mine too much, they get sick to much because I'm overprotective.  It's never said in nastiness, but I still become so annoyed.  With this pregnancy she has gotten worse, she asks me how it's she's growing.  If I'm going to take this pill, or that pill so she's gains weight before the birth.  I really don't need advice from the woman who put chicken broth in her 4-month-olds bottle.  I always tend to repeat the phrase, "Well, they are two different children."  When she compares the children.  She is especially bad about our middle boys who were born within a month of one another.  DS is slightly underweight, he has sensory issues and eating has always been a hassle.  She LOVES to tell me what I'm doing wrong.  I need to be more aggressive with him eating, I need to essentially force feed him.  I always say, "Ok, thanks but the speech therapist has other recommendations." [b] I can't be to harsh with her because she keeps my youngest while DH and I work.[/b]  Is this something I need to let just slide, or is there a mature way I can address this?[/quote]

this is your problem.  I'm sorry, but as soon as someone else provides you free daily childcare on a regular basis, you have created an awkward situation.

I would find another source of childcare, and then I would draw some boundaries.

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