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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I felt my DH was there for the most part.  But wanted me to rely on others to take me to chemo and radiation.  He went to my surgeries and one chemo and one radiation session.  He would happily accept meals.  We had two young children at the time.  He sent for my parents, who I always hate asking them for anything.  Whatever friends I had that were willing to come came.  I felt like I was pretty much orchestrating everything.   He took maybe 4 days off for the whole thing even though he has tons of leave. He did help on the really important decisions.  Was I expecting too much to have more hand holding?[/quote]

My parents had cancer one after the other. My father had it first and then a year later my mom.  In both cases, the both took off work to help the other cope with it.  Granted all of their kids are grown though.  My dad made all my moms meals, pushed her to sleep, took her to most of her appointments.  When he couldn't take her my sister drove her.   Being faced with the possible death of a close loved one can make people act strange.  My father was not always very nice and I believe he is one who doesn't handle stress well period.  He was snappy with everyone including my mom when my mom was going through it.  I will say my mom turned into nurse susie when it came to my dad's cancer.  It was like she was a pro and she really held it together much better when he was going through cancer.  So I would speak him about it, but try and be understanding. [/quote]

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