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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The staying together for the kids business is so cowardly and you're likely not fooling anyone but yourselves that your kids don't pick up on your contempt for each other.  [/quote]

Ok: I will play your game.

How long have you been married?

How many kids?

What is TOTAL net worth?

Where do live?

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Your questions suggest it's about money and geography.  It's not.  If you're staying together for financial reasons, that's especially troubling (unless you're facing homelessness, perhaps).  My husband and I have three kids, married 15 years (with our share of bumps).  Divorce would be a hardship, but no way in hell would I continue to live in a toxic environment with a spouse I hated / hated me for the sake of the kids.  Trust me, and I speak from experience, your kids WILL NOT be thankful that you subjected them to a childhood where mom and dad couldn't stand each other.  A good divorce is better than a bad marriage.  [/quote]

Who said that people staying together until kids are in college hated each other?

At best they coexist in a loveless marriage, leading seperate lives under one roof.  That's hardly a model for a marriage and kids are perceptive enough to know there is something not right.   And at worst they are completely contemptuous of one and other, often dragging the kids into the unhealthy dynamic.

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I doubt everybody that is thinking of divorce is in a loveless marriage. Many people love a spouse when they divorce them as well, but they just could not get along or had different paths they want to take. Just like a divorce does not have to be ugly nor does a marriage that is not perfect.[/quote]

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