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[quote=Anonymous]Similar thing happened with my DH although the facts were different.

He resigned from his job suddenly because he was ordered to do something that he felt was unethical and borderline illegal (in fact, the person who asked him was indicted a year later).  It was a last straw.  DH’s presentation was VERY different than OP’s.  He made sure to reassure me that he could meet his responsibilities while he looked for a new job. His company had been teetering for a couple of years so he was socking his “spending” money away (he had about 10 month’s of the bills that he pays saved up).  The only downside was that for the 6 months that he was out, we could not increase our savings.  Later, however DH acknowledged the risk he took,  thanked me for the support I gave him and the belief that I had in him.  I also know that he would support me in a similar situation.

OP, I get the sense that your DH thinks that you feel that his obligations and responsibility are a higher priority than his happiness.  It also seems that you have issues with his judgment generally.  You have a right to annoyed if, in fact, you are surprised by his decision.  Like PP, I think he made such a rash decision because he knew you would not support it.  That tells me that his level of unhappiness was at a critical stage.  No sensible man would quit his job and risk the wrath of his DW if he was marginally unhappy.  At this point, it makes no sense to “read him the riot act.” You are where you are and you have to work together to fix it (unless you leave him).  It is not an ideal situation but if you want to stay married, you have to tackle it head on together.  Encourage him to pursue his Plan B simultaneously with the real estate thing.  As another PP said, save the “riot act reading” for a time when you are more stable.

GL.
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