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[quote=Anonymous]I had this problem two years ago when my DH was training for a marathon.  He's no professional athlete so doesn't really know what he was doing…so he was over-training, so when he wasn't running, he was passed out on the bed during the weekend days.

I was so pissed off; I was picking up all kinds of slack, sacrificing my own health, and never had a break with the kids. And feeling rather alone in it all.

This is what I want to mention:  I was sort of in a "mental marathon," as well.  I couldn't wait for the damn thing to be over.  I was counting down the days…I was so happy when it was over; I thought that we were done and we as a family could now get back to normal!

The next day, he fell apart.  Literally, his body just rebelled on him and he got quite sick and also couldn't walk.  This is a guy who never missed work but he had to miss most of the week, and psychologically I had *nothing* left to give him--being his nurse and and driving him to the doctor, etc--it was really, really annoying; I just wanted him OUT from under my feet.

So just want to mention; save a little up psychologically for the after-race.

Finally, you should negotiate right NOW, before the event, that this should be his first and last Ironman.  Some families can do these things very well; but the particular way he trains and offloads onto you does not work for YOU so unless there is a dramatic change in the future in the way the pre-training impacts the family, this should be it--he got his bucket-list checked and enough is enough.

BTW that was my DH's first and last marathon and we are all the happier for it.  I am glad I supported him and I know that one day when he's 80 years old, he won't be thinking, "I never ran a marathon bc my wife wouldn't support me."
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