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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband said "I don't think it needs to be done, so I don't have to do it."

This is in relation to a couple things I asked him to do around the house. Not large things, and not all at once. Painting a vent cover to match the wall. Removing a valance the past owner put up. Scrubbing the glass shower stalls of caked on soap scum. He spends 5+ hours on his iPad every night after work, it'd be nice to carve out just an hour for some kind of household project. Instead, he never thinks anything needs to be done which absolves him of any responsibilities while I slave away. I dont mind doing things here and there, but im tired of being the only one pitching in. Seems unfair, but I'm Upset and unreasonable right now.

You tell me. Is it ok for a spouse to say this?
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Carve out an hour?  Lady, what you want done isnt just an hour of work.  Plus if he gave you an hour, would you not say, he spends only 20% of his time doing shit around the house, the rest is on his iPAD.

This is grown up time.  Meaning its time to step up to the plate and talk to him like a man and relate to him like a man, not a man-boy.  Respect him.  Discuss nicely and ask nicely what you would like to have done because of XYZ.  E.g., I would like the vent cover to match the wall.  Otherwise, it stands out too much and bothers me.  Would you be able to schedule some time to do that for me?

While you slave away?  Is is really like that? You have a chain around your neck, he has a whip?  Does he not work?  Does he not deserve down time after work?  Respect his down time, and he'll respect your wishes to be done by him.  Tell him you respect his abilities to do certain things, which you obviously do, which is why you're asking him. Grow up and learn to discuss meaningfully.  Not passing blame, but these comments are for him too.  Act like a husband! Do your shit.
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