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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:

It can cost much, much more. Our MIL wanted to cook every meal from scratch using fresh, organic ingredients and we were spending over $500 weekly in groceries. It was not the food she ate herself, it was the way of life that she forced on everyone that was making life with her very very expensive. Maybe OP's mother will merely join as an extra plate/bed in which case the cost would be minimal. But what some people fail to grasp here is that its often not that simple when someone joins your household (especially a parent used to having her way with her children for years).

In that case - I'd say "well, then, you need to buy groceries. That would put our expenses WELL over normal. We can't afford to eat like that."

Yes, but she would then feel very hurt, claiming this is not to be true, that we are treating her as a servant and just plan ruin it for everyone.

I am by no means saying this is the rule or anything, just that PPs who are aghast at the idea that $200 seems too little (or that OP is thinking about money at all) do not fully grasp the possibilities of a parent moving in. It can in fact get very expensive/burdensome.[/quote]

oh.  so she's a martyr?  Hate that.[/quote]

Basically she wanted to boss us around 24/7. If we complied, which we did most of the time, it was very expensive and annoying (put this here, why don't you wear this not that etc)  and if we didn't she would start crying how we were disrespectful.

Again, I am not saying this is a rule or trying to discourage anyone, just saying, if OP thinks her mom would cost more than $200 she might have a reason to think so and should not be labeled ungrateful right off the bat.[/quote]

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