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[quote=Anonymous]Like other PPs have asked, was he always this way or just once you had kids?

My situation was similar but not with both kids. My X was always known as the sweet quiet guy. After DC one, seemed like great dad. Then when I was preggo with DC two, became on edge. Having more frequent "rage-type" outbursts. Now once every blue moon, he'd have an outburst but not like when I was preggo. Then DC #2 came and was quite the screamer. My X was constantly saying to her curse words to the point I was like "get the f away". Seriously I have no sleep and you can't feed the baby without cursing??  Long story short, he was cheating in me and I guess the double life was stressing him out. Also I made more $$ than him (significantly) so I think he felt immasuclined to begin with (even though I made much more when we were dating). Now In my situation, I think the stress of him being a cheat and the screaming kids, financial responsibility and my attention on my kids more than him put him over the edge. It was almost like he became a totally different person. I always analogize it with someone who just snapped.

Anyway, HE wanted the divorce to go live his great new fantasy life (which was short lived). I had the same concerns over visitations too (DC less than 1yrs old and other DC 2.5yrs old). Luckily for me, he couldn't afford much for housing and didn't want to parent with roommates around and did all his visitations at my place. Fast forward 4 yrs and he's parenting just fine. I think sometimes if they get removed from the stress, they can be better parents.

Your kids are at that trying age so either you stay for 2 yrs and start making your plan for divorce (ie-stocking away cash somewhere for just you). Lining up your finances etc. if he gets worse sooner than later, leave and you'll figure out how to survive. He will need to pay you CS either way even if you make more $. Either way, believe me you can handle things on your own.  I'm not saying it's been easy but for me, it's been easier than living with him. My stress level has gone down exponentially. The kids seem happy. Have their questions of why we don't live together. The oldest acted out more at first but now is past that. My lawyer always said its better for the kids to divorce young. They bounce back quicker.

Best of luck in a difficult situation. [/quote]

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