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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. I have thought about a hotel, of course, but for the holidays? I'm planning at this point just to have the holidays at my house and if they want to come, great. We've always gone to their place for the holidays before (when we're not at DH's parents who live in another state). I know this is going to be a source of tension and that they will likely refuse to come spend the holidays with us, but I refuse to spend the holidays in a hotel![/quote]

Yes.  Alternate years, one year they come to you, the next  you go to them.  If they live 6  hours away, traveling may be a hardship for them that they won't admit.  I know that my parents and MIL don't handle long car trips well anymore, they can't drive well at night, and they don't like to drive anywhere they aren't familiar with as it gets too confusing for them, so if they can't fly for whatever reason, they don't come.

And yes, it's not healthy for your infant, especially at less than 8 weeks old, to be in those conditions.  So, you go and rent a 1BR or  2BR hotel suite (almost all Marriott Residence Inn properties and some Marriott TownePlace Suites have 2BR suites) near them.  Each suite has a separate living/dining room and kitchenette plus a door between those rooms and the bedroom so even if the adults are all still up and socializing, the baby can be put to sleep in the bedroom behind a door with the curtains drawn.   If you get a 2BR suite, you can offer that your parents stay with you at the hotel, give them the smaller bedroom and take the larger one for you, your husband and baby.  The larger bedroom is plenty large enough for a pack-and-play or bassinet or rock-n-play for the baby (we have twins and we can fit 2 pack-n-plays in the larger room and we parents take the 2nd room) and the whole family can be together under one roof without having to live in your parents house.  [/quote]

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