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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I can totally relate to what you are going through. I am a SAHM and I've been in moms groups for over two years, and while I feel like I have a lot of acquaintances, I haven't met a single person who I would consider a best friend or even a close friend. Yet I see other moms form these cliques, they text all the time, hang out on an impromptu basis, etc. I know that part of it is that I am not as naturally "warm" or approachable as some women are, and another reason is that I am the only mom in my area with a professional degree from a prestigious school (something I never mention, but which anyone who is FB friends with me knows). And, I just don't have a lot in common with most of the women I've met -- politically, religiously, culturally, etc. So these friendships are never going to get past a certain point and I have to be okay with that.

Another thing I've noticed that might be more relevant to you is that the women who seem to worm their way into the cliques the most successfully are highly available and not afraid to put themselves out there and make the first move. So you might have more luck approaching the women you think you would hit it off with one on one and asking them to get together outside of group events.

I don't think you're wrong to feel sad or rejected. It's really hard to make friends at this stage of life but it is normal to feel like you need women friends. [/quote]

I would wager that the first reason you listed (not as warm or approachable) is much more of a reason for your lack of bonding with these women than the next reason (your "professional degree from a prestigious school"). [/quote]

Ha!  I thought the same thing when I read that.  I'm not a warm or approachable person and I'm also an introvert, so I know I've had trouble making friends because of that.  I can tell you one thing though - anyone who spends any time making it clear to other people that she went to a "prestigious school" after about age 25 is probably not going to be someone I get along with anyway :)  And PP, it might be on your Facebook page in the "About" section, but that doesn't mean people know it unless you're posting about it all the time.  You might be overthinking the prestigious school bit....[/quote]

Seriously, it is called dropping the H-bomb for example, most people that went to Harvard find a way to drop it into conversation within 1 minute, they drop the H Bomb.  Call it something else for another ivy.  Whatever.

I went to a "prestigious" university, but I wold NEVER bring it up on conversation, I mean why? I graduated 10+ years ago, who cares.  [b]FB poster thinks people are intimidated by her prestigious school. I doubt they ever give it a second thought[/b].[/quote]

Uh. This.

I have had an amazing friendship with a woman for the last 7 years.  I have NO IDEA what school she attended. I do know she got her masters as some point and it must have been local.

What school one attended basically becomes completely irrelevant after you land your first job.

I think the poster has no friends due to false feelings of grandiosity.[/quote]

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