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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't respond with mean-spirited thoughts. Maybe they love to have people over but can't quite afford to feed them? Some people aren't so "middle class" that their HHI is "only" $350K+.

If they are kind of strapped, I would feel that at least they value the company of friends even if they don't really have enough money right now. That's not a crime, so show some  grace and don't be so quick to judge.

Of course, if they're just being cheap bastards, they can suck it.[/quote]

But in this scenario they could just have a bunch of people over for cake and coffee in the afternoon and just bake up something quick -- banana bread, muffins, whatever. If you can't afford to host a whole bunch of people for dinner, then don't invite them for dinner. We don't, in part because of that reason. We go out with friends to a cheap ethnic place and everyone splits the bill, then we all adjourn to someone's house -- a different house each time -- for dessert and game night. Much cheaper that way and you still see everyone and can host if that is your thing.

A few years ago a friend visited from out of town and asked if he could use our house as a brunch locale for 10-12 friends from college whom he hadn't seen in years (we were part of that crowd) because we were the only people we had a house. We said sure, assuming that he would chip in on the food costs. He didn't, nor did anyone else. No one brought anything, either. Now it wasn't horribly expensive by DCUM standards -- probably $150 for bagels, sides, etc -- but it was expensive enough that it wasn't something we would ever have thought to do on our own. I was furious but DH said we couldn't say anything. However, the next time the friend came to town and made the same request, we refused -- and he rented a barbeque space in a local park, which worked out nicely for all.[/quote]

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