Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Show up with a cooler full of road kill. That'll get 'em, and you can respond by saying but you said to bring meat for the grill! Of course, you can count out any future invites!

Who are you? The Beverly Hillbillies?

PP here. Hey, there's a bit of the hillbillies in all of us. I just might be down for some possum, grits, and hog jowls!

Because what's a day on DCUM without ignorant classism based on this show that was on TV one time?

That's INSANE.

If you go, you'd better not forget to bring your own toilet paper and eating utensils!



My family holds a large BBQ each year at the end of August wherein about 80 people attend. We supply absolutely everything. Of course, people are more than welcome to bring stuff if they want (and some do), but we certainly don't ask them to. That's beyond tacky.

It would be better if they invitation said we invite you to a BBQ at your house

Anonymous wrote:Show up with a cooler full of road kill. That'll get 'em, and you can respond by saying but you said to bring meat for the grill! Of course, you can count out any future invites!

OP, you better tell your neighbors to redneckognize! And bring some sketti while you're at it

Do they live near Frederick, MD? I know a woman there who used to have these kind of parties. I never went but thought it was beyond awful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Show up with a cooler full of road kill. That'll get 'em, and you can respond by saying but you said to bring meat for the grill! Of course, you can count out any future invites!

Who are you? The Beverly Hillbillies?

PP here. Hey, there's a bit of the hillbillies in all of us. I just might be down for some possum, grits, and hog jowls!

Anonymous wrote:Show up with a cooler full of road kill. That'll get 'em, and you can respond by saying but you said to bring meat for the grill! Of course, you can count out any future invites!

Who are you? The Beverly Hillbillies?

Show up with a cooler full of road kill. That'll get 'em, and you can respond by saying but you said to bring meat for the grill! Of course, you can count out any future invites!

Anonymous wrote:Now that you've told us, you have to go. So you can come back and report what it was like.

+1

Is it a potluck at the park?

My family was recently invited to Thanksgiving (our friends plan way in advance) dinner same as last year. I never go anywhere without bringing a dessert or booze. If I was asked to bring a turkey or ham and all the fixins', I would wonder what's up with that?

If they were college kids just trying to get everybody together, I could understand. But your neighbors sound downright cheap! If you throw a party, the host is expected to, at least, provide the main course...well, every party I've attended.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't respond with mean-spirited thoughts. Maybe they love to have people over but can't quite afford to feed them? Some people aren't so "middle class" that their HHI is "only" $350K+.

If they are kind of strapped, I would feel that at least they value the company of friends even if they don't really have enough money right now. That's not a crime, so show some grace and don't be so quick to judge.

Of course, if they're just being cheap bastards, they can suck it.

But in this scenario they could just have a bunch of people over for cake and coffee in the afternoon and just bake up something quick -- banana bread, muffins, whatever. If you can't afford to host a whole bunch of people for dinner, then don't invite them for dinner. We don't, in part because of that reason. We go out with friends to a cheap ethnic place and everyone splits the bill, then we all adjourn to someone's house -- a different house each time -- for dessert and game night. Much cheaper that way and you still see everyone and can host if that is your thing.

A few years ago a friend visited from out of town and asked if he could use our house as a brunch locale for 10-12 friends from college whom he hadn't seen in years (we were part of that crowd) because we were the only people we had a house. We said sure, assuming that he would chip in on the food costs. He didn't, nor did anyone else. No one brought anything, either. Now it wasn't horribly expensive by DCUM standards -- probably $150 for bagels, sides, etc -- but it was expensive enough that it wasn't something we would ever have thought to do on our own. I was furious but DH said we couldn't say anything. However, the next time the friend came to town and made the same request, we refused -- and he rented a barbeque space in a local park, which worked out nicely for all.

That's not an invitation, it's a shakedown.

We do this for our neighborhood block parties. We hold it in one court, a few folks on the court schlep out their grills and tables, then everyone from neighboring streets brings stuff. But I have never heard of a traditional BBQ hosted by a family doing such a thing.

That is tacky as shit. Exactly what were they going to provide for "their" BBQ?