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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's growing up. Make sure she is on birth control and that she doesn't make any life long decisions based on the relationship.  And be there for her when they break up (if they do) because it is going to hurt so very bad; he will always be her first love).

Labor Day is irrelevant, let her go. Otherwise you will lose her trust completely. You can't fight this situation, and there seems to be no reason to.
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Labor Day was already decided. You will lose any chance you have of her coming to you in the future with things that matter if you alter the decision that has already been made. I agree with posters who suggest that you tell her why you are nervous (you don't want to see her hurt) and about the responsibilities of being in this serious-level relationship (everything from bringing a gift for the parents as a thank you for the invitation to, yes, birth control). I'd review how she'd get home if she decides not to stay the full four days so that she's empowered to make that decision and knows that you trust her to evaluate her own situation and comfort level. I know I've made idiotic decisions in life just because my mother attempted to shut down all options.

She's 16 and has been dating her boyfriend for over a year. The only bad thing you have to say about him is that he seems a little too confident for your comfort. (????)

Don't f*&^ this up, Mom. It will set a very serious precedent. She won't confide in you until her 30s. I think it sucks that she's been put in the position to ease your mind, when, as a mother to a young woman, you had to have seen this coming. Mom up. Handle *yourself*. Let your daughter handle her relationship, with protection and options...and your respect for her choices (and her ability to deal with the consequences of those choices thanks to your positive involvement).

What a way to start the school year.

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