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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your daughter has been dating a boy (a year older) for a year, they are having sex. They just are. They will also have sex at the beach house. Trust me. That will be happening, regardless of what you or the mother think or do.

The horse has left the barn.

You say that you have a [i]hunch[/i] that they are sexually active. Please talk to your daughter directly about this. She may be hesitant to talk to you because of your conservative views. Your daughter's health and your ability to communicate with her need to come first. Set your views aside for a bit and just talk and listen.

She needs to be on birth control or she WILL get pregnant if they are having sex. Then she will have some decisions to make which are far more difficult than if she should go away for a weekend to the beach house.

Don't put pressure on another family to provide alot of supervision or to adhere to your morality for your daughter. If she goes, she will be having sex. If she does not go, she won't be having sex (this weekend). Be realistic.

The other mother probably feels that the horse has left the barn, and does not understand why you are suddenly concerned about supervision since the the kids are already having sex.

[b]This is a silly comment with no disrespect. Do not assume ALL kids who have had a bf for one year are having sex. WRONG. My daughter is one such example. She has had a bf for over a year and they both are in agreement of not having sex before marriage. Its a personal choice and while mainstream media might play it up that its "the thing to do" I assure you many kids are not sexually active at 16. So lets be realistic here. So, not ALL the horses have left the barn:)

Second, the OP has every right to "put pressure" on the host family for the rules that will be applied during her stay. If for whatever reason the host family was not comfortable wiht what she suggested, it is my guess they would have said as much. I do not think the morality of her daughter is in question here, it is more a matter of common sense and respect for how one behaves when staying as a guest. Do not be so black and white that if she goes they are having sex. That is hogwash.

And I don't think any of us can comment on that the mother thinks the OP is suddenly showing concern, with the implication being that she wasn't concerned before. Much of your comment was completely unfounded and purely speculative.
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