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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
Your entire list of differences made you sound like you felt superior. Why did you feel the need to point those things o ut?[/quote]

[quote]OP here. because I noticed the differences. I was trying to see if others noticed other trivial things like this with their in laws.[/quote]

[b]My suggestion would be to stay in hotels and do not be each other's guests. I have no idea nor have I ever inquired whether my SIL folds laundry, leaves a mound, gives juice or water and how often or when they eat fast food. I'm not even sure how this stuff comes up in conversation.[/b] [/quote]

+100[/quote]

OP again.  You know, I've thought a lot about this topic and the responses and realized something.  The reason I have taken note about the "little" things is because, indeed, I genuinely do not care for her.  Sure, I'm not BFF potential for her either, BUT... here's what I learned:

-At one point, I babysat her DC for her.  She was late to pick her DC up... just about every day....  She would pay me late pretty regularly.  Sometimes I would have to ask her to square up with me.  I have since stopped, but am still frustrated with myself (and her) for not being more direct with her about her  lack of consideration.  
-When I am with her mother (my MIL), she is very short in her conversations with me, as if she is jealous that I was with her mom. This doesn't happen very often, but I get the cold shoulder from her no matter when it does happen.
-When her kids do come over to my home (which is a few times a week), they often walk in with food/sodas that she knows we do not give our children. Then my kids ask for some of what her kids have.  I wish she'd just stop, but again, I need to be direct with her about this. NOTE:  My kids do get "treats" once or twice a week, like ginger ale (ginger brew, actually), or we'll make a homemade treat, or stop off at one of the many frozen yogurt shops.  
-Here's the one realization that has been VERY enlightening:  I'm a bit (or maybe a lot) jealous of her.  She's very relaxed, laid back and doesn't sweat the small stuff.  She goes out with friends and doesn't feel a bit of guilt about leaving her DC's with her mom (or whatever other family member/friend will watch them) I, obviously do sweat the small stuff, which is apparently why I decided to take note of all of our lifestyle differences.  
-On the other hand, I don't like her shady attitude and don't like the way she sometimes treats my children.

So, all in all, I really think that the differences I so embarrassingly noted (which, ironically, seemed like a good idea at the time), are only so obvious because of the other feelings I have toward her.  She's not stupid, so she must have felt the judgment oozing out of my pores.  I've never said the things I noted, but I'm sure she felt it.  I've really got to work on that, because it does nothing for me to think about those differences.

DCUM PP's:  thanks for the insight, and guiding me through a much need attitude intervention!!! Now... I'm off to fold laundry, count condiments, and feed my kids veggies all day.  Lol!  Just kidding!   
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