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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For all the people telling OP he needs some sympathy, are you suffering from depression?

My mom is bi-polar. Am I supposed to give her carte Blanche for years of physical and emotional abuse because she was depressed? If your illness is impacting how other people live and grow up, maybe you need to fine tune your own empathy. I get that my mom was and is sick. But she acts like I am supposed to be Suzy Sunshine with her. She dismisses her behavior with, "that was the depression talking." I've been hearing that since I was three. When do I get the right to protect myself emotionally?

Behavior, intended of not, has consequences and can damage relationships and people.[/quote]
Sorry to hear this...I cannot imagine growing up in a household with someone with a severe mental illness.
However, you have to remember that if someone has a DIAGNOSED mental illness then they have a MENTAL ILLNESS.
It is a little silly for someone to expect them to make sane and emotionally, and mentally healthy decisions when they have a diagnosed MENTAL illness.
What you have to do is recognize where they are in treatment and decide what your personal boundaries are...if you are being emotionally abused...u may have to limit or cut out contact.
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Sorry, but children growing up with mentally ill parents to that degree don't have the option of deciding "personal boundaries." As someone who grew up in a house with someone diagnosed with mental illness, (and who used it as an excuse to be horrifically damaging to small children, i firmly believe if people are so depressed as to be abusive or non functioning, the children should be removed from the home. Sometimes, the well-being of others has to come before the rights of someone who is ill, mental or otherwise. You can't have your cake and eat it, too: either you can get out of bed and deal with life, or you can accept that your ten year old shouldn't be your caregiver, and they deserve to live in a more stable environment.[/quote]
I am the PP
When speaking of boundaries...I am talking about AS AN ADULT
I know full well that a kid cannot make these decisions....thus why I started out saying I am sorry about having to go thru that...
I obviously was not clear
AS AN ADULT...should work on creating boundaries or cutting someone off if need be....
Not easy ...of course
But makes more sense than expecting crazy people to make rationale, healthy decisions[/quote]

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