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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you are horrible. You know what they are going through and all you care about is yourself.  You better learn to be more understanding and less judgmental before you have your child. I told my best friend (I was her maid of honor, etc.) that I was pregnant 4 months ago and haven't heard a word from her since. I know she is struggling with infertility so it hasn't bothered me one bit. I know she will come around when she is ready and I don't need any more attention.  Get over yourself.  You almost seem like you want to rub it in.[/quote]

I think the situation you're describing is odd.  Sure, your friend is struggling with infertility but she is also your best friend, and to just completely leave your life like that is really harsh.  I don't understand these extreme reactions from the person struggling from infertility.  Why the need to shut the pregnant person out of their life completely?  [/quote]

Until you've walked a mile, you really are in no position to judge.[/quote]

+1  You don't understand because you've never been there.

OP, a PP said that a "simple congratulations" would be like chewing glass for the SIL.  Yup, that sounds about right to me.  I gave out lots and lots of congratulations while I struggled to get pregnant, and the longer my infertility went on the harder it became to say those words.  It's not that I wasn't glad for all my pregnant friends and family.  It was that my own pain and grief at my losses, the awful fear that I might never get to have a child, the desperation, the physical toll of the treatments, the emotional exhaustion, the time and money, the hope and crushing disappointment... it was all just so much to bear, and no one could understand because none of them had to do anything more than go to bed with their husband.  The only way to be sensitive to your SIL here, OP, is to recognize that you truly have NO idea what she is going through or has gone through.  You're getting everything you want.  Please be happy with that and give your SIL some space and time.  [/quote]

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