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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really expect her to swallow her pain just to make you feel like a special snowflake? 
Don't take it personally. She just needs her space. She shouldn't be expected to be ecstatic for you. Put yourself in her shoes. [/quote]

OP here.  I don't expect her to be ecstatic, but I do find it a little weird that in the last 3 months of phone calls/emails with my brother that I have to hide my pregnancy.  It just seems really weird to me.  I don't think an email or a phone call with a simple congratulations means I'm expecting her to shower me with enthusiasm.  [/quote]

Pp here who you quoted. I can see how you might find it odd, not having been in their shoes. I have been there. 2.5 years and 4 miscarriages to be exact. If I was your SIL and saw you or talked to you directly, I'd say congrats. But I doubt I'd go out of my way to call you unless we were very close to begin with. It's very painful to be infertile and each announcement is a reminder of your own failure (or at least that's how they felt to me). Doesn't matter if it's irrational but that's the way it was. Not to mention that most people have no idea what it's like and even if they know of your issues will still rattle on about their symptoms (and complain about them even!) and plans etc. 
I'm sure you get plenty of attention from everyone else, so why do you want these two to pretend for you? Screw manners, they're going through hell. [/quote]

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