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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.  Yes, I wouldn't want to characterize it this way, but my sister is kind of a screw up.  She does have a job, and takes ok care of her kids (doesn't abuse them), but is always late, broke, has excuses for everything, etc.

I don't think I am arrogant enough that I could never be broke, or getting divorced, or have had some of the other problems my sister has.  But some of the problems have been her doing, of course.  She dug her own money hole (with her husband of course).  She is unreliable, there is no one else to blame for that.  She chose this prize of a guy.

I have asked my sister exactly how much she needs, and have asked for the name of her lawyer so I can speak with her directly.  I'm going to find out what it would take to pay a flat fee so that she doesn't have to pay injuction by injuction against her bastard ex.

until then, I don't know if i'm going to just gift her 1-2k and call it a day, because it really won't solve her problems much, and it won't be the end.

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In that case, I would consider the one-time gift, made directly to the attorney (btw I doubt any lawyer will do this for a flat fee and 1-2k is, as you note, going to be a drop in the bucket probably), and let her know up front that you're doing all you can for her this one time and that, unfortunately, you will not be able to provide more help ($) later, but you hope it helps, etc., etc.

Then when she comes back for more later, the answer is that you already gave and you did what you could, and that's all you can do.[/quote]

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