Reply to Mean relative. How does one handle this?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Mean relative. How does one handle this?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP here. For a while I couldn't find the thread. I didn't realize that this family relationships forum existed.

I don't know much about my niece's mother; according to my sister, she is a flaky, selfish, negligent mom. Of course, I can't really believe anything my sister says about her. My niece also sometimes says things to suggest that her mom is dumb, but I think that comes from the influence of my BIL and sister. My niece also says that her step-siblings (her mom remarried) and step-dad are not nice to her, and that her mom doesn't do anything about it. I am not sure to what degree this is true.

I have often thought to myself that if I were her (my niece's mom), I would want to know. I think that, to some degree, she does know. My sister has told me how she (niece's mom) has blown up at my sister and/or BIL, saying that my sister is too hard on my niece, etc. etc. So I think she has an idea, but I don't know if she knows how bad it truly is. I have really been tempted, many times, to call her. I have even looked up her address and phone number, and looked her up on Facebook. I could definitely contact her, but since I don't really know what she's like, and I don't know if she is that much better than my sister and BIL, I don't know if I should. And if she ever mentioned to my sister that I had called her, my sister would never, ever forgive me and I am pretty sure that she would never want to see me ever again.  Also, part of me says, what do I know? maybe I should just 'MYOB' like so many people on DCUM advise.

I have been posting a lot here. It is helpful to be able to "talk" to people and get feedback. One time when I tried to talk to my mom about this, I was telling her about how my sister had called my niece a dumbass. And I said to my mom, "isn't that horrible?" My mom's response was, "Well, that's just how [your sister] is, and she talks like that to pretty much anyone, not just [niece], so it's not personal, you know?"[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics