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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: You two are both idiots.  Who cares who-started-what or is-this-domestic-violence.  Newsflash: You are both drunken idiots.

Yes, I would advise you to leave the situation,  for a time, and focus on your own sobriety.  Once you've been clean and sober for a month things may come into focus and you can make intelligent decisions about your life.  God help you if you have kids, but if you do, try to get them to a safe, sane and sober relative while you work on your issues.

For this others -- I've heard about several situations like the above, one while on jury duty, several others from cop friends.  The only conclusion any outside observer comes to when seeing this kind of fray is:  They. Are. Both.  Idiots.    You don't want to get the police or a jury involved here.  Just GET.  OUT.

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Thanks but I don't have a drinking problem. I have a few drinks on the weekends and mainly a glass of wine with dinner. My husband feud drunk once every two months. We returned from a wedding so that it why we were both drunk. An actual rare occurance. [/quote]

OP, the major problem is not that you were drunk, it's the way this fight occurred and escalated.  If you were both sober it would have been just as bad.  Clearly there are a lot of problems here and you both have problems, and you need to acknowledge that.  I think that is what the pps are saying- this is not a one-sided thing on DH's part, you are problematic as well.  I actually think that if something like this occurred just once in a marriage when DH was drunk and times were really bad, it would not be a deal-breaker all by itself.  But you indicate that there is a lot of abuse in the relationship.  My father was abusive to my mother and I can tell you that he wasn't the only one with issues.  She needed help and counseling too, and she never got that help.  I think it took her decades to develop the understanding of herself that she should have had in her 30s.[/quote]

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