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[quote=Anonymous]Wow, I'm bummed by so many intolerant responses here.

I'm one I'd those annoying picky adult eaters.  I dont make demands on hosts and I don't complain when food is not to my liking; it's not something I choose, and I am sorry that it displeases hosts who are looking for compliments on their food or just the pleasure of feeding a guest.  Believe me, if it were simply a matter of willpower, I'd be less picky because I hate to displease people.  But my pickiness is not a choice -- whether you call it OCD or anxiety or an eating disorder, it's not a choice.  The best therapists have been able to offer is anti-anxiety meds, but since I don't have anxiety about any other issue, I don't want to take a systemic medicine for symptoms that are well controlled by simply sticking to food sources that are familiar and "safe".

A PP described her annoying friend above as someone who wouldn't eat stir fry or casseroles, has weird texture issues, didn't like different kinds of foods to mix.  That's me.  There's a semi-rational basis to all this -- I have a deadly peanut allergy, and I won't eat a strange mixture of lots of different types of food unless I an check it and make sure there are no peanuts in it.  The irrational part of that is needing to check myself even when someone tells me there are no
Peanuts, but if I don't, I just am highly uncomfortable and anxious the whole time while eating.  I'd rather relax and enjoy my "safe" food than be anxious and agitated the whole time I'm eating.

I I was your guest, OP, I wouldn't expect you to cater to my whims.  Cook what you like.  But please don't be possessives off or start pressuring me if I don't fill my plate or if I eat just one thing you offer.  Part of being a good hostess is helping your guests feel comfortable.  I don't demand special meals or menus, but I don't deserve to be harangued or harassed because I don't enjoy your food.[/quote]

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