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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread has me thinking about my/my DC's situation at school.  DC started at the school 2 years ago and we simply haven't clicked socially.  I say "we" b/c I have reached out to the moms and have not found them receptive to including me socially.  In addition, I routinely tried to set up playdates.  Sometimes a child would come over for a playdate but with maybe one exception, my DC wasn't invited to the other child's house.  I have wondered, worried, analyzed, etc. about this situation for so long.
What was so odd about this situation is that my DC is a very social, friendly, smart, polite kid.  In addition, there is nothing "out of the ordinary" about our family - our socioeconomic/education/background is similar to most at the school.  I have volunteered, hosted school events at our house, etc. We have always been well liked in other situations (as has our DC), but with this cohort of parents/kids, we simply can't get any traction.  I've tried everything.
I guess I'm compelled to write this to say that sometimes people just chose to freeze someone out.  Sadly, this has happened here.  For us, we've decided that the education our DC is getting has been worth staying (one more year only), but we have all learned important lessons about finding your supporters elsewhere when the school cohort isn't a great fit.  Our friends are not parents at the school and, although our DC is treated well at school, it never translates into playdates, invitations to their birthday parties, etc.  So, DC's lesson is that these are school-friends and that the great friends are old ones from other schools, from sports teams, from church, from camp and family friends.  Yes, it is wrong and crummy but these things can be growing experiences if the family treats it right and doesn't give the mean crowd too much power.[/quote]

If you're child is in a NoVa public, I'll bet I know which school.  I'm having an eerily similar experience.[/quote]

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