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Anonymous wrote:This thread has me thinking about my/my DC's situation at school. DC started at the school 2 years ago and we simply haven't clicked socially. I say "we" b/c I have reached out to the moms and have not found them receptive to including me socially. In addition, I routinely tried to set up playdates. Sometimes a child would come over for a playdate but with maybe one exception, my DC wasn't invited to the other child's house. I have wondered, worried, analyzed, etc. about this situation for so long.
What was so odd about this situation is that my DC is a very social, friendly, smart, polite kid. In addition, there is nothing "out of the ordinary" about our family - our socioeconomic/education/background is similar to most at the school. I have volunteered, hosted school events at our house, etc. We have always been well liked in other situations (as has our DC), but with this cohort of parents/kids, we simply can't get any traction. I've tried everything.
I guess I'm compelled to write this to say that sometimes people just chose to freeze someone out. Sadly, this has happened here. For us, we've decided that the education our DC is getting has been worth staying (one more year only), but we have all learned important lessons about finding your supporters elsewhere when the school cohort isn't a great fit. Our friends are not parents at the school and, although our DC is treated well at school, it never translates into playdates, invitations to their birthday parties, etc. So, DC's lesson is that these are school-friends and that the great friends are old ones from other schools, from sports teams, from church, from camp and family friends. Yes, it is wrong and crummy but these things can be growing experiences if the family treats it right and doesn't give the mean crowd too much power.

If you're child is in a NoVa public, I'll bet I know which school. I'm having an eerily similar experience.

Anonymous wrote:This thread has me thinking about my/my DC's situation at school. DC started at the school 2 years ago and we simply haven't clicked socially. I say "we" b/c I have reached out to the moms and have not found them receptive to including me socially. In addition, I routinely tried to set up playdates. Sometimes a child would come over for a playdate but with maybe one exception, my DC wasn't invited to the other child's house. I have wondered, worried, analyzed, etc. about this situation for so long.
What was so odd about this situation is that my DC is a very social, friendly, smart, polite kid. In addition, there is nothing "out of the ordinary" about our family - our socioeconomic/education/background is similar to most at the school. I have volunteered, hosted school events at our house, etc. We have always been well liked in other situations (as has our DC), but with this cohort of parents/kids, we simply can't get any traction. I've tried everything.
I guess I'm compelled to write this to say that sometimes people just chose to freeze someone out. Sadly, this has happened here. For us, we've decided that the education our DC is getting has been worth staying (one more year only), but we have all learned important lessons about finding your supporters elsewhere when the school cohort isn't a great fit. Our friends are not parents at the school and, although our DC is treated well at school, it never translates into playdates, invitations to their birthday parties, etc. So, DC's lesson is that these are school-friends and that the great friends are old ones from other schools, from sports teams, from church, from camp and family friends. Yes, it is wrong and crummy but these things can be growing experiences if the family treats it right and doesn't give the mean crowd too much power.

Anonymous wrote:couldn't figure out what thread this would go in so I picked general. My kids go to a small private neighborhood school, small classes, mostly neighborhood kids. over the past few months the Mommy drama among the mothers of their classmates has gotten out of control, and i find myself the target of some of it and I can't understand why as I am pleasant and polite to everyone, we have many kids over for play dates, and always help other parents when asked (give rides, etc). I am worried that it is starting to affect my children bc it seems they are getting excluded from play dates, birthday parties, etc. I can live with the other mommies not really liking me, but how do I make sure whatever they think of me doesn't reflect on my children? Do I ignore them, turn the other cheek, etc? I am too old to deal with this and wouldn't except DC is complaining that DC is never asked for play dates when we always have other people, etc.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the responses. I cannot think of anything I have said or done to offend someone but perhaps I did unknowingly or my child did. My DH works long hours so he isn't around the school functions very much so I don't see how he could have had an interaction that raised eyebrows. I also don't think he is cheating. my children used to attend a Big 3 school but we switched schools last year for a variety of reasons and we never EVER had these issues at the Big 3.