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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a similar situation with my DH.  He is finishing grad school and has zero job prospects right now.  He looks but doesn't go out of his way.  He will not consider returning to his prior profession.  I make about $190k pre-tax.  We pay about $36k each year in child care.  After mortgages, real estate taxes and commuting costs, we don't quite break even.  I would like to refinance but don't think I can with only one income (we had two when we bought the house).  We are approaching go time as far as when he should take over child care because he has no grad school excuse . . . . . but I know there is going to be a reason why that date will be pushed back.  He will say okay in theory but come up with reason after reason why now is not the time.  Last summer, he was going to "invest" but spent the whole summer reading about 5 investment books.  The problem is, he has (untreated) issues with depression that led to the career change.  I am worried that being Mr. Mom will make him more depressed and that he will model behavior to my kids that will predispose them to go down the same path.  When he get depressed, he can be very short with the kids.  I feel really good about their current day care and preschool situations and don't want to mess them up.  I have taken full distributions on any savings I ever had to keep this situation working and now am out of options.[/quote]

You need marriage counseling.  Honestly your husband sounds like a tool.  You're making great money and he's just loading around.   He needs to get some sort of job to contribute.   Personally there is no way I'd put up with that but I see my friends (male and female) their spouses get away with it.  What I've never understood is how much can someone really love you if they do that??  I would never do that to my DH and I'm about at your income.

And five books!?!   Please I read that while holding down a full-time job!  Ugh it just makes me mad that he's treating you like that.  [/quote]

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