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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand where you are right now and just trying to run all the possibilities through your head. But these are tough questions for a lot of reasons and people often feel hurt by them. Keep in mind that there are many parents of kids with whatever gets voted "worst" here. We are used to being judged and criticized by others and we like to feel supported on this board.

It is also an impossible question because none of these conditions exist in isolation. I don't just mean that there are comorbid conditions (learning disabilities, anxiety, etc) but a child's innate temperament, IQ, other interests and skills, can make all the difference. There truly is no way to isolate the one issue and make a prediction. Take my child: ADHD (combined type, but fidgety rather than a big mover... inattentive but also a hyperfocused or academics), dysgraphia, highly anxious, introverted, stubborn... highly persistent, courageous, funny, imaginative, and high IQ. He has both incredible gifts and great challenges. Things are both easier and much harder for him than for most kids. He suffers a great deal and also finds great joy in life. We have had some family life events that have been very, very hard for him but are home is also very stable and supportive.

I honestly don't know how you can take an average of my child's experiences and qualities and compare it to those of another. Again, I understand that you are just trying to make sense of the future but I think you have to just stay open to what is coming, nourish your child's strengths and support your child's weaknesses. Best of luck to you and your child.[/quote]

OP here.  I deeply appologize if anyone felt hurt by my question.  You are so completely right that I'm trying to get some kind of concrete (and over-simplified) read on something that is far too complex and nuanced for that.  You're right.  I'm scared and grasping for answers.   You are also right that whatever "it" is co-exists will ALL of my son's strengths and weaknesses and the sum total of all of this characteristics is more powerful than any one particular diagnosis.  This actually gives me great comfort, so thank you for that.  It allows me to focus on all of the elements that comprise his wonderful quirkiness and not just some to-be-determined, one piece of him, label.    [/quote]

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