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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of the fundraising is to go towards financial aid for students who could otherwise afford to go to that school. I think if you can afford to pay $40k out of pocket, you can certainly afford to contribute to the FA fund.[/quote]

But get this (not the OP here, BTW): We don't WANT to contribute to the FA fund.

For the life of me, I will never understand why regular middle class families like ours and OPs, who are already doing a lot by sending our kids to these schools and contributing nominally to the auction, annual fund, etc etc etc, are expected to subsidize OTHER MIDDLE CLASS KIDS (read: NOT low-income or otherwise truly "diverse" kids) simply because some parents are strapped because of their own student loans, or they chose to take (or could only find) jobs that do not pay top dollar.

So there. [/quote]

PP, I agree with you and think your comments are refreshing.  Why in the world should a family that is working hard, foregoing luxuries, making sacrifices and making big-time life choices (smaller house, older car, no vacations, etc.) be expected to pay MORE so that another family who is also middle class can get a tuition break.  Yes, I understand scholarships for the very disadvantaged or under-represented minorities, but for another middle class family: no.  We all make a lot of tough choices in order to make these schools happen.

After a few years of constant fundraising pressure and the school culture that everyone "should" contribute something, I've had it.  I "shouldn't" do anything.  I already scrape and save and forego just to afford this tuition and, yes, it increases every year.  What I "should" be doing is fully funding my retirement account (which we can't do) or go on a great vacation (no way, not in the budget).  As it stands, most of our money goes to tuition and expenses.

I think the schools should have some decency when it comes to fundraising.  Perhaps hit up the "generational-wealth" families or the very wealthy and tell those families what they "should" contribute.  My family feels the pain of tuition all the time (in ways that the wealthy families simply do not).  Somehow I don't feel if is my responsibility to fund a financial aid fund - that seems to be the responsibility of the truly wealthy families at the school (and, trust me, there are plenty).

The fundraising pressure never seems to end.  I look at the well-into-six-figures we have spent in just a few years at an elementary school and wonder if it is worth it.  The constant fundraising makes me question that even more.[/quote]

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