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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not easy to reverse.  You have to either go through the admissions process again or put your child in a public school that may be far less than ideal.  You have to pull your child out of a place s/he's gotten to know and away from his/her friends.  You have to deal with the fact that you just spent $30K per year on something you feel wasn't worth the price.

I'm guessing that those of you calling OP crazy or telling her to relax haven't been though the admissions process recently.  [/quote]

I'm PP and I've done it.  I had a child at a "big 3" school that turned out to be a poor fit.  I know there are plenty of families in that position that stick it out because of the prestige or whatever, and from what I can see that is a much, much tougher road than transferring to a school that is a better fit.  My DC started thriving very quickly after the transfer.  [b]Mentally it may seem daunting but it truly isn't and if you are resistant to making necessary changes mid-stream because you've convinced yourself that its too difficult, or that once you make a decision you have to stick with it for some kind of ridiculous reason, you really do your child a disservice.[/b]

Unless you have a child with special needs, and I don't get the sense that OP is in that situation, it matters far less than the competitive parents on these boards make it seem.  I never called OP crazy.  I have been through the process recently.  I agree that its stressful, but only as stressful as you allow it to be.  OP is so freaked out that everyone around her -- colleagues, family, friends -- are telling her to chill.  You don't get the sense she needs to chill?[/quote]

+1.

I find that a lot of these parents look at this process as validation of their abilties as parents. They view this as the potential for personal rejection.  Add to that may of them have been telling friends and such about applying to these schools - so pride and ego plays into it also.

Having had to transfer one of my kids out of a private because of a bad fit, I can tell you that once it is done and the kid is thriving, you never look back.

This is not a life or death decision because there are options if it is a bad fit. [/quote]

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