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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I have joined about 10 different social groups since moving here.  I go to the events, meet some nice people, and often will take the initiative to invite someone to do something.  But no one ever takes the initiative to invite me.  I wonder about this all the time.  Presumably they're there to make friends, since it's a social group, or are they just there to eat at the particular restaurant or do the activity?  Or are they just there to get out of the house and they have no interest in making friends?  Or are they waiting until they find the perfect friend match, and anyone who seems nice but who doesn't seem to have a lot in common with them isn't worth making the effort for?

I just wonder why I am always the one initiating future get-togethers at these types of events, and never once has anyone come up to me, said "I've enjoyed chatting with you, would you like to get a coffee next weekend?"  And then the get-togethers never seem to turn into actual friendships because the other person doesn't reciprocate.

My DH thinks that most people in their 30s are not interested in making new friends, that they already have all the friends they need and are busy with friends and family.  But if that's true, then why do they go to these social groups?  And why don't they feel that I'm worth getting to know better?

So my DH thinks that it's not that there's something wrong with me that I can't make friends, but more that people aren't interested in making new friends at this age.  But everyone I meet seems to have friends, so that's why I feel that there must be something wrong with me that I can't make friends easily here.[/quote]

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